dear november

i remember when we promised we would leave here

in the summer

when oasis took over the radio

and i knew you

you’d forget me when the leaves changed

dear november

i remember when you promised you would love me

til tomorrow

and you’d hold me tighter than the night before

and i knew you

you’d forget me on the drive home

you drew a line between the winter and the autumn

and i loved you

oh i loved you harder than i knew i could

and you broke me in the margins

you tore your name out of the pages and the late nights

and i know you

now by names of months and private codes and scars

and i bury you in pieces



dear november

i remember when i dreamed you carved in marble

under my hands

when your heart beat so i heard it underground

and i knew you

you would crumble in your weakness

dear november

i remember when i knew that it was over

and i stood there

and i breathed the air that promised i would drown

and i knew you

and i knew you loved me sinking

you drew a line between the winter and the autumn

and i loved you

oh i loved you harder than i knew i could

and you broke me in the margins

you tore your name out of the pages and the late nights

and i know you

now by names of months and private codes and scars

and i bury you in pieces

year by year

dear november

i remember when i hid from you that summer

it was over and it felt just like imagining i died

but you know now

i’ll have you know that i’m in heaven

without you

i am lightning

i am stars and hearts and horseshoes i am home

i hear music

i hear my radio playing

brave new summers

they unfurl like flags or sails or smiles or songs

and i’m singing

i am singing in november

 

my middlin’ sister and I made a family self-care chart that we put in the hallway to encourage us all to take care of ourselves, and last night my mom was like,

"is it weird that i want to go get some swimming in JUST so I can tick off something else on the chart?"

and my eldest sister reminded her that that was, in fact, the entire point of the chart

and we looked at each other across the living room like

it’s working

zombiesandporn:

childishflamingo:

my favorite thing in stories is when the antagonist doesn’t die, but instead they realize they were being kind of a stupid dick (maybe because the protagonist saved them or something) and then they have to kind of awkwardly tag along with the heroes in order to make up for their mistakes and gradually become slightly less evil

image

sourcedumal:

backofthebookshelf:

th3skinny:

re-cover-ed:

“Fat acceptance” blogs urging overweight people to shed negative feelings about their body image can lead to healthier diet and exercise choices, a study has found.

The fat acceptance movement, which seeks to foster a support network among overweight people, has inspired a plethora of blogs and web forums such as CorpulentFat Heffalump and The Rotund — an online community that’s become known as the “fatosphere”.

In a study published in the journal Qualitative Health Research, researchers from Monash University, the University of New England and the University of Canberra interviewed 44 fatosphere bloggers from Australia, the US and the UK about how their involvement in the movement had changed them.

“There’s been a lot of criticism of the movement that it promotes obesity and encourages people to give up on weight loss and makes their health worse,” said one of the researchers, Dr Samantha Thomas, a Senior Research Fellow at Monash University’s Department of Marketing.

“We saw there was a lot of opinion about the movement but very few people had actually studied it.”

Interviews with the respondents revealed many had experienced feelings of worthlessness, shame, crash diets, cycles of starvation and binge eating and laxative abuse before discovering the fatosphere.

“Having that support and feeling empowered, people slowly found that their health behaviours began to change dramatically. For example, many people suddenly felt confident to do swimming, something they would not have done before,” she said.

“People shifted their focus away from weight loss and more toward health. A lot of people started to take part in physical activity not as a way to lose weight but because they enjoyed it. Instead of pounding it out on the treadmill they start playing with their kids. It’s actually a massive shift in the way they looked at things.”

Shifting the focus away from restricting food and toward listening to the body’s needs could also lead to better food choices, said Dr Thomas.

“There are actually a lot of lessons for public health here,” she said.

“The term fat acceptance is really confronting for people. That’s why we have seen a lot of blame and criticism. Society tells us it’s not OK to be fat for a whole bunch of moral and medical reasons,” she said.

“This study shows that far from promoting obesity and promoting negative health behaviours, the movement is really positive for some people’s health.”

So basically, if fat-bashers actually cared about people’s health (as they so often claim to as an excuse for their intolerance and hatred) then they’d actually support fat acceptance instead of trying to tear body-positive folks down?

Surprise! When you’re not made to feel miserable about yourself, you become more motivated to take care of the self that you have. Who knew?

OHHHH WHAT WAS THAT? WHAT WAS THAT? YOU MEAN SHITTING ON FAT PEOPLE DOESN’T DO A GODDAMN THING POSITIVE FOR THEIR HEALTH? YOU MEAN ALL THE DAMN FEARMONGERING IS BAD FOR HEALTH?

YOU DON’T FUCKING SAY